Just like any other desire or intent we have in our life, we're often not 100% committed to the change. The comfort of old patterns and beliefs keeps us with the pedal to the medal and the brakes on at the same time. Bringing awareness to what you resist about change can help you get clear to really go after your goal with real excitement.
Uber helpful to have a coach or friend to air what's holding you back. There's often a treasure trove of old memories, assumptions, traumas, family relationship issues, how you relate to your body and food, bad experiences with "dieting" and other lurking skeletons hiding out diminishing our readiness to GET SHIFT Happening. Sometimes it's a lack of confidence in your ability to take on the change -- that's where a support group or buddy can make all the difference.
Here's an example from someone who looked at the Fat Loss program I work with for my clients and at first said "NO way" to herself. The thoughts and memories that circled through her mind: She would have to change what she was drinking through the day and didn't think she would like it. She didn't want to give up sweets, chips, and pizza. She didn't want to miss out on the special family treats of caramel corn and peanut brittle. She didn't think she could really eliminate sugar. Here was her motivation that had her on a yes - no seasaw: STRESS had caused havoc for her in a variety of ways -- it caused a major health issue 45 years earlier that had her on medication. (Many medications while helping with symptoms, don't get to the underlying cause and can deplete your body of minerals and vitamins and throw off other regulating processes in your body.) Case in point is that every 6 months, she had to get her liver function tested to make sure no harm was done. She had lifelong sleep issues, had lost her son, and her husband had brain surgery followed by 10 months in rehab before he came home. She put on 10 lbs. in one month after he came home. She went for her yearly physical and told her doctor, if she could only get a handle on her cravings. The doctor looked at her and said: SUGAR IS POISON AND IT WILL KILL YOU, ONE WAY OR THE OTHER.
Somehow she overcame her resistance and "got with the program." Here;s the happy side 4 months after getting engaged with and following the program. Cravings disappeared immediately! She lost 10 pounds but 35 inches!! (meaning she gained some lean and loss lots of fluffy fat.) After 3 months, started sleeping better for the first time. Her constipation as a result of her medication ended!
So, what have you got to lose? What's your motivation? What's your back story? What are you resisting that might be eensy teensy hurdle to get over or big and bold? What support do you need to jump in to action?
Melanie dropped 60 pounds and lots of inches, now comfortable in her body and bending and lifting a breeze. Happy Trails to you!